Overcoming Self-Criticism

Counseling for Overcoming Self-Criticism in Oregon

There it is – AGAIN.

That nagging voice in your head. A sign that counseling for overcoming self-criticism could help.

Pestering you in a relentless pursuit of what’s wrong with you.

Doubting and criticizing, night and day. Never leaving you alone.

Always making sure you know – you’re the problem.

It always blames you.

When something bad happens or goes wrong, it’s all you.

It chatters away, making you FEEL so bad, while a pit forms in your stomach.

“It’s all your fault! If only you were better!”

“Why do you keep doing this? You should have known.”

“Why didn’t you do it differently?”

“You’re too ____” (it doesn’t matter, fill in the blank)!

It always blames you.

You’re the common denominator.

When the math comes in, you’re always, always wrong.

Self-criticism may leave you alone for a while, but it always comes back with a vengeance.

Perhaps, it’s some critique of your appearance or character.

“You’re too fat. Too ugly. Why did you eat that? You’re ‘too much’!”

“When are you going to stop acting like that? You’re so stupid.”

It especially loves to say, “Here’s how you SHOULD have done it differently.” There’s always a “should,” and there’s always something wrong with you.

Even when things are fine, it won’t leave you alone.

It quietly talks beneath the surface. It’s always got some “helpful” hint or a quiet critique of what you do.

Sometimes, it’s a little more subtle, but it doesn’t take any holidays.

You’re running around, really hard, trying to pacify it, and get everything right. But it doesn’t work; it still has something to say – trying to prove you’re never – ever – good enough.

It’s so hurtful!

It makes you feel like there’s something wrong with YOU.

You’re smart, and you’ve thought this through. You know you shouldn’t believe it, but it’s so hard not to. It’s unclear – is this criticism even coming from you?

You’ve tried to stop, but no matter how much you want to or try, you can’t rein it in. It’s too powerful!

It doesn’t make any sense! You’re always fighting it.

Battling for your worth – trying to appease it.

But finally surrendering in sad, hopeless, and anxious defeat.

You just want some PEACE! You don’t deserve to keep getting battered by self-criticism and self-hate. It’s such a hard way to live.

But you don’t have to keep living this way. You can get counseling for overcoming self-criticism.

That critical voice has been there for a long time, but it’s possible to have a life – one in which it doesn’t rule you. you can overcome self-criticism.

A life in which self-criticism comes up – but you don’t feel compelled to listen to it.

A life in which you’re able to turn to reason, self-compassion, care, kindness, and LOVE for yourself, instead.

You can change the math…overcoming self-criticism.

You can develop the tools to see through self-criticism, so it’s not as believable anymore.

You’ll be able to test whether what you hear in your head is actually helpful. If it’s not, you’ll learn to dismiss it and turn to an inner dialogue that’s supportive and more realistic.

You’ll understand how self-criticism took root, but how it isn’t the best way to motivate and care for yourself. You’ll learn to turn to a kind cheerleader and wise self to get what you need.

Mostly, you’ll get to experience some peace. And some relief. Getting a sense of who you really are and developing some love and care for yourself, beneath that voice.

I’ll show you a better formula – a positive equation.

Don’t worry – I’ve had many years of experience doing this myself, and I’ll be by your side to support you the entire time.

I’ll help you shut down that voice and help you see it clearly, so you can stop listening to it –

And start recognizing your genuine worth and value.

Don’t ever let overcoming criticism determine who you are or how you see yourself again.

Get help with counseling and kick self-criticism’s ass today!

Move into an unconditionally loving, supportive relationship with yourself, for good.

Give me a call today (541) 600-4458 to schedule a free consultation.