Attachment Issues

Therapy for Attachment Issues in Oregon

What Lies Beneath

Therapy for attachment issues can help…

Because underlying every interaction, you have, it’s there – a creeping, malevolent sense of dread.

The dread that you’re not good enough.

It’s challenging to connect with people.

Will they like me? Will they think I’m ok? Am I suitable?

I shouldn’t bother them. They’re busy, and I’m – not important.

I’m asking too much.

It’s taking control – you’re losing your grip.

Pouring with sweat, consumed by nerves, nauseated by the pit in your stomach, you can’t keep pace with your thoughts.

How much should you text them? How did they take what you said? Are they going to want to hang out after all?

That little thing you said keeps taunting you – you obsess about how they took it. Should you check in with them?

When you ask for what you need or try to set boundaries, worry consumes you. Is she angry now? Should you go back and rewrite that email you sent?

You text your partner – you need to talk, but you worry that you’re just a constant bother.

Relationships run hot and cold.

You love them, but you feel so insecure when it’s time to connect.

The fear is unreasonable, out of control – why is it always so hard to interact? Is this normal?

Almost every interaction can turn into cause for concern and leave you feeling bad and thinking, “It really shouldn’t be this hard.”

Relationships are an essential part of life. You can’t keep feeling this bad, and you know you’ve got to learn how to do this.

Read the signs.

The pervasive difficulty, the concern, the insecurity – these signal you need some attachment support.

“Attachment” is the emotional bond and feelings of closeness and security you have with others.

Like many of us, you may have had problems with attachment early in your life – issues that make it difficult to feel safe and at ease with others when you try to connect.

Ignored, these can lead to worry, anxiety, feelings of nervousness, doubt, or insecurity (not to mention getting super focused or overthinking).

Or you may resort to avoiding others or pushing them away entirely.

This can lead to chronic struggle and wondering if you’re interacting appropriately.

You carry them with you – always.

Attachment struggles go with you into every relationship – from strangers to co-workers to best friends or intimate partners.

Hijacking your thoughts and emotions, causing you to second guess yourself, strangling your joy.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

There are many ways to feel safer.

I can help. With therapy for attachment issues.

I’ll help you understand what’s going on and why you worry or feel so insecure in relationships.

When you learn to notice and understand attachment issues when they come up, you can respond appropriately and stop judging yourself for the difficulty you experience.

You’ll learn to set or honor your boundaries and those of others, without so much angst and second guessing.

You’ll start feeling better relating to others, calmer, and more confident in your interactions.

You can grow stronger.

Together, we’ll work to develop the skills you need to confidently and securely interact.

We’ll manage your worry and insecurity without fixating, spiraling, or blaming yourself.

And we’ll do it without avoiding others and pushing them away.

You’ll feel calmer, better, more present in your interactions. More confident with yourself.

Even when you experience worry, anxiety, or doubt, you’ll be able to put it into context, rather than letting it consume you.

When you manage these emotions, you’ll feel better about YOU, calmly observing, rather than obsessing over and judging every interaction.

Relationships are a non-negotiable part of life. So is therapy for attachment issues.

Because always having to struggle doesn’t feel good. You CAN change how you experience relationships.

Let’s help you feel safe, calmer, and more secure today. You’ll get the support you need and practice in real-time how to connect.

I look forward to making this connection with YOU!

Give me a call today (541) 600-4458 to set up a free consultation.